1. Why is it that some women cannot enjoy their singleness and embrace their “me time”?
I don’t believe that some women just can’t enjoy their single season and are apprehensive to try it. Loneliness and desire for a relationship is very well something that every woman experiences. Therefore, it really depends. Has she been single for a long time? Is she experiencing a season of isolation due to a move or health challenges? Or maybe she is someone that has never been single before and new to it.
Enjoying the single-season is the easiest when life is vibrant and full of new experiences. Most women that have a hard time enjoying their singleness are too focused on the current season and fail to pre-occupy themselves with other things, such as their purpose, their career or their physical/ mental well-being. Once we take out exes off the now it’s much easier to see how being single is a blessing.
2. What are some ways that women can fill fulfilled?
The best way to feel fulfilled is by aligning with God’s purpose for your life. By doing the things you are naturally gifted in and emerging yourself in the experiences that make you happy. Whether that’s serving locally or building a platform/ community that reaches people all over the world. When you know what you are supposed to do and get to use your talents to do it you gain confidence and that’s what will help you feel fulfilled and useful.

 

3. What bible verses talk about self-fulfillment?
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

 

4. What are some ways that the enemy tries to corrupt us & make us feel that we are not enough?
The enemy’s main goal is to distract us from our calling. Loneliness is a great way to keep women depressed and hopeless. By making us feel like we are not enough (to attract a healthy relationship, develop meaningful friendships, be more socially involved) we start to doubt who God created us to be. And once we do that, it’s only a matter of time until we start doubting what he called us to.

 

5. What are some phrases or words of encouragement that can help us during our time of loneliness?
“If you want to be happy, learn to be alone without being lonely. Learn that being alone does not mean being unhappy. The world is full of plenty interesting and enjoyable things to do and people who can enrich your life.”  – Michael Josephson

 

6. What advice would you give women during this time?
To focus on yourself. Make it a habit to truly listen to your mind and body and find out what it is it needs. Invest time, money and effort into your self-care from going to the gym and eating healthy to reading inspiring books or hiring a life coach. The worst thing we can do is to only focus on the external symptoms, but never deal with the internal stuff.