How to Fight & Freeze Your Stress

Boss Brenley

How to Fight & Freeze Your Stress


“You must learn to go. Release the stress. You were never in control of anyway.”-Steve Maraboli

There are numerous studies that have been conducted in showing the level of stress over the last decades in people’s lives. According to The American Institute of Stress, the four main stresses that people go through are finances, relationships, social issues, & occupational issues.

65% of people in the workforce say that the workplace stresses them out & has caused difficulties. While 10% of them said that because the workplace is stressing them out, it affects them in a major way. It is also understandable why working moms are under a lot of stress while at work. The U.S. Department of Labor reported that 75% of working mothers have children under the age of 18 years old, & with over 75% of those moms working full time.

Leslie Hurst, MSW, says that everyone experiences stress & anxiety, but there’s confusion between those two as well as trauma. She gives advice on how to tackle these three things that are linked together, “Anytime I explain anxiety to someone I always begin with the basics of anxiety, which is the fight, flight, freeze response. The fight response allows us to take down anything big or scary. For instance, if you’re attacked by a bear you might have to be ready to fight. This response makes us as humans overly aggressive in situations that aren’t really threatening. The flight response is different. Instead of your body preparing to fight, we have also evolved to have a flight instinct when presented with something scary to keep ourselves safe. This may look like stopping an activity we kind anxiety provoking or even avoiding a situation at all. Lastly, the freeze response allows individuals to quickly assess a dangerous situation. It gives us time to decide to fight or run away. This may lead us to have our mind go blank or fainting.”

Hurst continues to say that when things become too overwhelming i.e. in our personal life, anxiety springs up. She continues by saying, “We as humans have evolved to have this response to alert us to danger. It allows us to act in stressful situations. This is where the stress part comes in. Stress is a response to a threat in a situation and anxiety is the reaction to the stress. Stress is the tension that results from a demanding situation, such as a deadline for a paper. It can be physical, emotional, psychological, or even a combination.”

Owner of Elite Financial Services Naomi Anthony, MAcc, EA asks her clients when talking about financial stress, “What’s your disposable income?” She then goes into their personal income, & encourages them to create a personal balance sheet.


Naomi Anthony shares expense worksheet

“Usually people spend the most money on eating out & shopping. Sometimes it’s up to $80 that people don’t know about or don’t know where it goes.” Anthony also encourages her clients to create a goal of saving three to six months of saved up expenses. “The question that you must ask yourself is: How can you meet your (money) goal? For example, how can you save up X amount of money in X number of months? But keep in mind that your goal must be realistic. You can calm your anxiety with attainable goals by dividing into what you do each week/month, then execute & discipline what comes in.” The bookkeeper says that some of the best ways to save money are by cooking more, carrying packed lunch, & putting the tax refund into a savings account. The biggest thing that someone can do it by saving 10% of their check into their savings. 
The biggest thing to do whenever stress overwhelms you is to JUST BREATHE.