More couples are creating their own traditions with a nontraditional wedding ceremony at a courthouse.
According to the Business Insider, the average wedding costs about $38,700-we hope our Southern belles are saving their coins! A lot of women are said to want to opt to use money instead of a wedding towards a downpayment for a house, chip away at their student loans, or even to travel with their partner instead of paying for an elaborate wedding.
Another factor on why a lot of brides decide to do a courthouse wedding instead is because of the added stress of planning a wedding. Zola Weddings conducted a survey that found that 40% of couples who were planning their wedding days were extremely stressed with the planning. & nearly half of the couples who did the survey admitted that the planning put a strain on their relationships.
27-year-old mother of 6-month-old twin girls Nicole Davis shared with the magazine on the reasons why she and her fiance, Oronde, decided to opt out of a traditional wedding ceremony.
1. Why did you & your fiance decide to do a low key wedding?
We decided on a low key wedding because we just had twins and we did a large baby shower which was a gathering of friends and family to celebrate our love and children. We also do not have the money or time for the wedding that we want because we had our girls and that money and time is invested into them and our growing family.
2. Is this something that you’ve always wanted when dreaming of your wedding?
I’ve always wanted a wedding in the fall time with a beautiful sunset and cool breeze. I just want to bring together all my loved ones to celebrate the love that I’ve found.
3. Were there any added pressure from family and/or friends that might have wanted y’all to have a big wedding?
There wasn’t any pressure from anyone since we will be doing a big wedding in the future.
4. Talk about the process of a courthouse wedding.
To get married in any state (Florida), you need to apply for a marriage license at the courthouse. You will need your ID and then money for however much it costs. All states are different and have certain waiting periods before you can legally be married and give you a certain time from when you apply that you need to be married. We live in Florida so there is a 3 day waiting period to be married, after obtaining the license, unless you have gone through premarital counseling (they have a list of registered churches and counselors). You have to be married within 60 days of the date you get the license. In the county I’m in they allow you to marry in one of three places if you want to do a ceremony, however, it is an extra $30.
5. Are there any plans for after the ceremony?
After the ceremony, my husband and I will have a small dinner with close friends and family.
6. Some people say that a courthouse wedding is less intimate. Do you agree or disagree?
I disagree. I believe it is more intimate because it is either just the two of you or very close friends and family. There is nothing to focus on except for the love between the two of you especially since you don’t have to worry about the stresses of a wedding. Also, most of the time you can have limited amount of people so it really makes you think, who do you actually want there.
7. How do you guys make the ceremony just as special and worthwhile as a ceremony with all of your family & friends?
I don’t think we have to do anything to make it special because it’s special enough that we have decided to get married and make this vow to each other. We plan to share it with our friends and family through pictures, but we believe this is the best way to go about getting married at this point in our lives.